“The more I do this work and live this life, the more I believe there are no wrong decisions. Even the ones where I went against my gut taught me the power of listening to my gut.” Do you agree or disagree? I’m so curious. LMK in the comments.

I have so many, it’s hard to pick just one…

So that’s me. How about you: What’s a belief that you’ve let go of to build life on your terms? Let me know in the comments or DM me here. I really want to hear. I’ll share back (anonymously of course) what I hear, so we can gather some group wisdom!

Since we only have one life, I believe in living it on our own terms.

That sounds like a beautiful, pithy tagline. But I’ll tell you this: I earned it the hard way…

Every step we take and every choice we make is the result of an invitation of some sort. But not all invitations look the same. And knowing the difference can be a powerful tool in navigating life with intentionality.

Modern life, especially for those of us past the early parts of our careers and lives, can feel much like a Cheesecake Factory menu. If we want to make a change or forge a new path, there are so many options from which to choose.

This can easily get us stuck. What are we to do?

Here are the three big things I did to change my life, and how you can use them to make big, impactful changes of your own.

When talking with new clients, I’m starting to notice one pattern with some regularity… and I’ve started thinking about it as the Columbo moment.

Sound familiar? All of these [negative] sentiments are so common we wouldn’t bat an eye. But are they true? Maybe. Maybe not. Hear me out: their veracity actually doesn’t matter.

Whether we believe them does matter. A lot. Because of our negativity bias, our minds, left unchecked, can jump to terrifying conclusions….

One of my core beliefs is that when something ends, something better is on the way. Laid off? A job that you love more awaits. Lost your sweet beach cottage? A home you like better will appear.

So how do you get there when surrounded by signs of loss?

Does time slow down in a liminal zone?

A new feature this week: Amy answers your questions on being stuck or in the liminal zone. Here’s the first:

Dear Amy,

How do you know if you’re stuck or if you’re processing what happened?

Thanks,

Definitely in-between

When I do intake calls with new clients, I ask them a series of questions about what brought them to me, what change they’re trying to make in their lives, what’s got them stuck or not moving forward (or forward as fast as they wish) on that change. But I always save the most meaningful question for last: