This is the unsung hero of liminal spaces.
It doesn’t present as liminal. It shows up as a problem we’re putting off, an intractable dilemma, or something we assume is simply lost to us.

But therein lies the magic.

AKA When You Didn’t $%&* Ask for This

Oh gosh, you guys.
This one is a doozy.

And honestly? I'm still feeling the tidal wave (pun intended) of my last reshaping liminal space.

Here’s what this one looks like:

A quote from Friends comes to mind. At one point, Ross says:
“Nobody likes change.”
(This does not go well for him—awkward hilarity ensues.)

But... he's not wrong.

Even the good kind of change—the kind we’ve worked toward, longed for, and maybe even announced on LinkedIn or instagram or facebook—can knock us sideways.
The kind that comes with a whole row of cards at the drugstore? Still hard.

This is one of the most familiar types of liminal space.
You’ve moved out of one identity, structure, or setting—but haven’t yet landed in the next.

Maybe you’ve taken a new job that hasn’t started yet.
Maybe you’re moving cities, and your current apartment is full of half-packed boxes.
Maybe you’ve stepped out of academia, corporate life, or full-time caregiving—but haven’t yet shaped what this new rhythm will actually feel like.

You may have physically left, or you may have mentally left.
You don’t know when you’ll arrive at next.
You don’t know what next is.
But you do know this: it’s not where you’ve been.

Liminal is an architectural term.
It means a space that connects other spaces. Think hallway, plaza, arcade (the European kind, not the 12-year-old birthday party kind 🤣). These spaces are designed to let things happen.
Life’s liminal spaces are similar…

“The more I do this work and live this life, the more I believe there are no wrong decisions. Even the ones where I went against my gut taught me the power of listening to my gut.” Do you agree or disagree? I’m so curious. LMK in the comments.

I have so many, it’s hard to pick just one…

So that’s me. How about you: What’s a belief that you’ve let go of to build life on your terms? Let me know in the comments or DM me here. I really want to hear. I’ll share back (anonymously of course) what I hear, so we can gather some group wisdom!

Since we only have one life, I believe in living it on our own terms.

That sounds like a beautiful, pithy tagline. But I’ll tell you this: I earned it the hard way…

Every step we take and every choice we make is the result of an invitation of some sort. But not all invitations look the same. And knowing the difference can be a powerful tool in navigating life with intentionality.

Modern life, especially for those of us past the early parts of our careers and lives, can feel much like a Cheesecake Factory menu. If we want to make a change or forge a new path, there are so many options from which to choose.

This can easily get us stuck. What are we to do?

Here are the three big things I did to change my life, and how you can use them to make big, impactful changes of your own.